Homeschooling is a beautiful journey, but it can also be tough.
It’s easy to get caught up in guilt, self-criticism, and comparison.
But there’s a better way: self-compassion.
Kristin Neff, a leading expert on self-compassion, breaks it down into three parts. Let’s explore how these can help you as a homeschool mom.
1. Self-Kindness
Treat yourself with the same kindness you would show a friend.
It’s okay to make mistakes.
Often, we think being hard on ourselves will help us improve.
In reality, it just drains our energy.
Try this:
The next time you feel like you’ve failed, pause.
Ask yourself, “Would I speak this way to someone I love?”
If not, rephrase it with compassion.
Example:
If your child struggles with a lesson, instead of thinking,
“I’m failing as a teacher,” try, “We’re learning together. It’s okay to have hard days.”
2. Common Humanity
You are not alone.
Every mom faces struggles.
It’s easy to feel like you’re the only one falling short.
But mistakes and frustrations are part of the shared human experience.
When we recognize this, we stop isolating ourselves.
We remember that every mom has these moments.
Try this:
When you’re feeling overwhelmed, remind yourself,
“This is something all homeschool moms go through. I’m not alone in this.”
Example:
If your lesson plan falls apart, instead of thinking,
“I’m not cut out for this,” remind yourself,
“Everyone has off days. This doesn’t define me.”
3. Mindfulness
Be present with your thoughts and feelings.
Acknowledge what’s happening without getting swept away by it.
Mindfulness isn’t about ignoring the hard stuff.
It’s about noticing your thoughts without judging them.
It creates space to respond with intention instead of reacting to stress.
Try this:
When you catch yourself spiraling into negative self-talk, pause.
Take a deep breath and say, “This is just a thought. I don’t have to believe it.”
Example:
If you feel overwhelmed by a messy house, instead of thinking,
“I can’t keep up,” try,
“Right now, it feels chaotic. I’ll tackle one thing at a time.”
Embracing Self-Compassion in Your Homeschool
Homeschooling is a journey with ups and downs.
By practicing self-kindness, embracing common humanity, and being mindful, you can create more peace in your days.
You are doing better than you think.
Give yourself grace.
