Embarking on a family vacation, my sixteen-year-old son asked for games on his phone to fill the airplane hours. Instead of offering a quick parental decree, I seized the opportunity for a meaningful discussion. This incident prompted reflection on the significance of teaching our children how to think independently and make value-based decisions—a crucial aspect of homeschooling. As Elder Dieter F. Uchtdorf wisely said, “The objective of parenting is not to eliminate all challenges but to help our children develop the strength to overcome them.”
Empowering Independent Thinkers:
Homeschooling goes beyond imparting knowledge; it’s about nurturing individuals capable of critical thinking and wise decision-making. By encouraging our children to grapple with challenges and make decisions, we equip them with resilience, resourcefulness, and a strong sense of self. As parents, our role is not to eliminate obstacles but to guide our children in developing the skills needed to navigate life’s complexities.
Value-Based Decision Making:
In the teachings of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, the emphasis on personal and moral agency resonates strongly. Elder Ronald A. Rasband aptly stated, “Each of us is free to choose how we will live our lives, but we cannot control the consequences of our choices.” Teaching our children to align their decisions with their values is essential for their personal and spiritual development. Engaging in open discussions about principles and values guides them toward choices in harmony with their beliefs, enabling them to comprehend the consequences of their actions.
Meaningful Discussions:
Creating a space for open and meaningful discussions is integral to fostering independent thinking. Rather than dictating rules, parents should encourage dialogue that allows children to express their thoughts, question assumptions, and consider different perspectives. It involves recognizing our children’s viewpoints and, at times, being open to changing our minds when they exhibit wise decision-making. By engaging in discussions about moral dilemmas, current events, and personal experiences, children develop critical thinking skills and learn to articulate their thoughts, preparing them for the complexities of adulthood.
As homeschooling parents, our goal is to raise individuals who can navigate life’s journey with confidence, integrity, and a strong sense of purpose. The willingness to foster independent thinkers through open discussions contributes to the development of children who can make principle-based decisions guided by moral agency. So, let’s continue this journey of teaching our children not just what to think, but how to think, preparing them for a future where they govern themselves effectively in an imperfect world.
